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Wednesday, September 8, 2010

THE MALE MISTRESS

I was chatting the other day with Kane about being the third party in a relationship. I was then asked if I ever was one, the other man. I said no.

That night, I was still bothered by that answer. I don’t know why, I was sure during that time I was telling the truth. I’ve never been the other man.

And then it hit me. I did. I was. I’ve been the other man. I’ve been a male mistress. I entered into a relationship before knowing that I am not the only guy in someone’s life. It was with the good time guy.

Third party isn’t even accurate. I was the fourth party. The guy hag a girlfriend and a boyfriend at the same time he had me. But that time, I knew I had the upper hand because we were working together. We see each other all the time, and the sex was great.

The relationship did not last long. I had to let go of the awesome sexy time, because apart from that, the two of us had nothing. We have nothing in common. Every time we try to start a conversation, talk about each other, we always ended up fighting. Plus add the fact that back then, I wasn’t ready to tell the world who I was, and that was his problem. He wanted us to hang out in public places where my subordinates then would easily see us. I can’t do that. He was sweet and all, but once 5pm comes, he cuts all communications with me to be with his number one or number two (I don’t care to remember anymore).

It was a crazy one month, what we had. But I don’t think I’d ever do that again, being the third party. Even if let’s say they tell me they’re in an open relationship. I wouldn’t want to hurt someone intentionally (and myself if that person decides not to choose me in the end).

And then there’s karma.


I hear she’s a bitch.

13 comments:

onmoti said...

(But I don’t think I’d ever do that again, being the third party) -- unsure?

Alterjon said...

yeah. I was before.

I only come to life when he needs me like some magical item. I'd say our time spent: scheduled.

we all just have to realize it's an option we may always scrape-off even from the beginning.

rudeboy said...

The trouble with boys, engel, is that they grow up to be men.

And men will always be what they always have been.

Present company included.

Knoxxy said...

Karma is a BIG bitch! heehe

Chingoy said...

may halong "buti nga sa kanya!" LOLS

Justine said...

i can relate to this, that once in my life I became a third party, with my bf having a legal wife

Ex Jason said...

i don't understand why anyone would settle for being just the other guy. siguro nga hindi pa lang talaga nangyayari sakin.

soltero said...

I was a kabit ng kabit for 2 weeks and it ended when i learned about it. It's not worth the time and energy, and before it got so serious, I decided to do something about it. And yes sayang, sakto pa naman sana kami nung guy...

imsonotconio said...

ive been a kabit before and yah it sucks

i agree! karma is a bitch

Mac Callister said...

true,karma will always come your way if you bad things to others...

me too, i cannot imagine myself being the kabit! at bilib ako sa mga gumagawa nun!

Gaspard said...

I almost became the "3rd wheel". A fling broke up with his partner. Then he flirted with me. About to do "it" when I heard they became lovers again. Bad part? Fling wanted me to be with him, eventhough he's already back together with his bf. Complicated? Yeah. Btw, fling's partner is my boss' boss' boss. I'm screwed if I took him seriously. Hahaha

Master Clutter said...

i just broke up with my partner-- as i am a 'kabit'.

ang linya nia pa nga, 'we are the perfect couple-- we are not just in the perfect situation...'

pakshet. masakit. but i know, i did the right thing.

Master Clutter said...

Your post inspired me to write my own.

Hope you could check it out. Thanks.

http://clutteredmind00.blogspot.com/2010/09/i-was-number-two-confessions-of-male.html